Foreword
Acknowledgments
1. Introduction
The Canyon We Must Cross
Working in Relationship
A Push
Focus Groups
The Power of Language
Acknowledging Our Lens
2. A Power Analysis: White Women and Institutional Access
Navigating Sexism
Benefiting from White Privilege
Occupying the Buffer Zone
3. A Model of White Women's Development
Overlapping Characteristics
The Progression: Sexism Before White Privilege
Feeling Each Phase
Strategic Questions
Using a Developmental Model
4. Immersion
Normalizing Whiteness
Gender Role Limitations
The Carrot and the Stick
Advancing White Male Agendas
Competing for Male Attention
The Ideal Object
Nice White Ladies Hurting People of Color
Final Thoughts
Feeling Immersion
Strategic Questions for Immersion
5. Capitulation
Putting People of Color at Risk
Stuck in the Middle with You
Normalization of the White Woman
What About Me?
Silent Consent
Between Helpless and Powerful
Passive Aggression
The Politics of Capitulation
Final Thoughts
Feeling Capitulation
Strategic Questions for Capitulation
6. Defense
Defense Reversal
Fighting for Crumbs: Sexism Versus Racism
I Got This
Take What I Want and Leave the Rest
I Love Your People
That's Not What I Meant!
Helpful and Nice Aggression
Please Join, as Long as You Make Me Feel Good
Physically Defending Ourselves
But I'm a Good Anti-Racist: Defensiveness Toward People of Color
Final Thoughts
Feeling Defense
Strategic Questions for Defense
7. Projection
Following the "Rules" of Anti-Racist Allyship
Dualistic Thinking
Competing to be the Best White Person
Relating to Black Men
The Helper
Final Thoughts
Feeling Projection
Strategic Questions for Projection
8. Balance
Driving in the Ocean
Intersectionality
So, How Do We Do This?
Awareness
Knowledge
Skills
Action/Advocacy
Final Thoughts
Feeling Balance
Strategic Questions for Balance
9. Integration
Capturing a Moment
Being With One Another
Final Thoughts
Feeling Integration
Strategic Questions for Integration
10. White Women's Tears
Women of Color and Tears
White Women's Tears As a Response to Sexism
Tears for Fears
The Impact of White Women's Tears
Tears in Immersion
Tears in Capitulation
Tears in Defense
Tears when Transitioning to Projection
Tears in Projection
Tears in Balance
Tears in Integration
Beyond Tears
11. If What, Now What?
Grow Awareness and Knowledge
Using Awareness and Knowledge to Inform Skills
Interrupt Oppression
Connect with People of Color
Final Thoughts (For Now)
Appendix A: Community Conversations: A Guide for Collective Praxis
Getting it Together
Things to Consider: Some Unhelpful Common Patterns of White Women
Let's Get Real: Using Serial Testimony for Deep Reflection
The Basics
Reflection Topics— Examples
Appendix B: Focus Group Participants
Definitions
Focus Group Participant Book List
Notes
Index
About the Authors
About New Society Publishers
