Married 25 years, Elaine discovered her husband was a sex addict when she was hospitalized for a sexually transmitted infection. In the moment of discovery, everything she thought she knew about her life was destroyed. Struggling to cope with the searing pain of betrayal, she began to write. Her writing came out in the form of poetry. In this book is the poetry she wrote, along with the story of her journey from betrayal to hope.
Contents Original Preface, April 2005. vii Preface, August 2017. ix I. Discovery 1 II. The Struggle to Understand 25 III. A Higher Power 45 IV. Downstream 55 Some Final Words 73
“In this beautifully written original book of poems, Elaine VanderReis takes readers on her unfolding journey of discovering her husband is a sex addict. Each piece of work is more gripping than the next as she shares her tragedies, her tears and her triumphs of recovering as a betrayed partner. Her work is inspiring, validating and will be extremely helpful reading for addicts and partners alike.” Stefanie Carnes, Ph.D.