BIFF at Work
Your Guide to Difficult Workplace Communication
BIFF Conflict Communication Series
Published by: High Conflict Institute Press
Imprint: Unhooked Books
Have you ever received an email that made your heart beat faster or spiked your blood pressure? We all know we're not supposed to respond right away, but how you respond will either increase or decrease the hostility and conflict. Hostile and undermining emails, letters, texts, and conversations can drain inordinate amounts of time, emotional energy and expense in the workplace.
For over a dozen years, the BIFF method of communicating in writing has helped thousands of people calm conflicts and create clear communication in response to misinformation, blame, and unnecessary anger.
BIFF (Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm) is a simple, practical and structured way to respond to nasty emails or any written communication. It can help you get the outcomes you want by diffusing tension, containing conflict, and establishing professional boundaries.
This second book in the Conflict Communication Series focuses exclusively on workplace communication—internal and external—with instructions on how to use the four-step BIFF method with numerous examples of what works and what does not work to demonstrate potential pitfalls. It also includes tips on how to coach co-workers and others on writing effective BIFF responses to customers, clients, employees, and managers—instead of becoming consumed in unhealthy back-and-forth wars. Using BIFF with toxic teammates, workplace bullies, and threatening customers and clients can reduce the risk of lawsuits and complaints and make everyone feel more confident in workplace relationships.
Use BIFF to lower your blood pressure, turn down the conflict flame, and restore your confidence. BIFF is a game-changer when you have to respond in writing in high-conflict situations or with any upset person. Then use Bill's EAR Statement™ technique in Calming Upset People with EAR for verbal communications in high-conflict situations.
Part 1 : Understanding High Conflict Behaviors
Chapter 1: Blamespeak
Chapter 2: Identifying High Conflict Behaviors with the WEB Method
Chapter 3: Writing a BIFF Response Using EAR and Proposals
Chapter 4: What to Avoid
Chapter 5: How to Check Yourself
Part 2 : Successfully Managing Internal High Conflict Issues
Chapter 6: Navigating Challenging Internal Work Relationships
Chapter 7: Toxic Teammates
Chapter 8: Workplace Bullies
Chapter 9: Hiring and Firing
Chapter 10: Creating Anti-Conflict Internal Culture – Toolkit
Part 3 : Successfully Managing External High Conflict Issues
Chapter 11: Navigating Challenging Customer, Client, & Board Member Relationships
Chapter 12: Customer Service
Chapter 13: Toxic Board Dynamics
Chapter 14: BIFF as a Risk Reducer: Lawsuits, Complaints, and Reputation
Chapter 15: Creating Anti-Conflict External Culture - Toolkit
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