I. Why We Don’t Really Want to Be Nice
1. The Legacy of Christianity: Nice but Weak
2. The Legacy of Romanticism: Nice but Boring
3. The Legacy of Capitalism: Nice but Bankrupt
4. The Legacy of Eroticism: Nice but Unsexy
II. Kindness
1. Charity
2. The Weakness of Strength
3. Losers and Tragic Heroes
4. Motives
5. Suffering and Meanness
6. Politeness
III. Charm
1. What Is the Purpose of Friendship?
2. The Problem of Over-Friendliness
3. How to Overcome Shyness
4. Why Affectionate Teasing Is Kind and Necessary
5. How to Be Warm
6. Why Flirting Matters
7. Why Kind People Always Lie
8. How to Be a Good Listener
9. How to Be Open-Minded
10. How Not to Be Boring
11. How to Talk about Yourself
12. How Not to Rant
13. The Charm of Vulnerability
14. The Ultimate Test of Your Social Skills