1. Why We Don’t Really Want to Be Nice
i. The Legacy of Christianity: Nice but Weak
ii. The Legacy of Romanticism: Nice but Boring
iii. The Legacy of Capitalism: Nice but Bankrupt
iv. The Legacy of Eroticism: Nice but Unsexy
2. Kindness
i. Charity
ii. The Weakness of Strength
iii. Losers and Tragic Heroes
iv. Motives
v. Suffering and Meanness
vi. Politeness
3. Charm
i. What Is the Purpose of Friendship?
ii. The Problem of Over-Friendliness
iii. How to Overcome Shyness
iv. Why Affectionate Teasing Is Kind and Necessary
v. How to Be Warm
vi. Why Flirting Matters
vii. Why Kind People Always Lie
viii. How to Be a Good Listener
ix. How to Be Open-Minded
x. How Not to Be Boring
xi. How to Talk about Yourself
xii. How Not to Rant
xiii. The Charm of Vulnerability
xiv. The Ultimate Test of Your Social Skills