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The School of Life: Stay or Leave

The School of Life: Stay or Leave

How to remain in, or end, your relationship

by The School of Life

Published by: The School of Life

Imprint: The School of Life

144 Pages, 5.31 x 8.50 in

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9781915087515
Published: May 2024

$14.99

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A book to offer clarity and guidance when facing the difficult decision of whether your relationship has a future

Should you stay or leave?

Whether we should stay in or leave a relationship is one of the most consequential and painful decisions we are ever likely to confront.

What makes the issue so hard is that there are no fixed rules for judgment. How can we tell whether a relationship is “good enough” or just not the right fit? How do we draw the line between longing and naivety? Is sex vital or can a relationship survive without it? Does someone “better” actually exist? How much should the feelings of children be considered (and what might they be in the long term)? Could one’s partner change, perhaps with therapy, or should one assume that who they are now is who they will always be?

All these questions typically haunt us as we weigh whether to stay or go. With no ax to grind, or ideology to promote, this book takes the reader (gently) through their options and opens their mind to perspectives they might not have considered. The goal is to help clarify what the reader wants—truly wants—deep down, so that the answer that emerges will be properly attuned to their unique circumstances and often very private aspirations. Here is a tool that carries the promise of the future we deserve.

This book aims to take the reader towards a time, perhaps presently hard to imagine, when the choice of whether to stay or go will no longer feel so agonizing. This book helps us understand ourselves deeply, helps us consider our options, minimize our regrets—and find the way ahead.

Introduction

1. Is it okay to want them to change?

2. Are we just too different?

3. Can people change?

4. Is it worth breaking up over sex?

5. What about the children?

6. Have we tried everything?

7. What if I end up lonely?

8. What if I just repeat the same mistakes?

9. Can I cope practically?

10. Who is rejecting whom?

11. Why do I continue to feel so stuck?

12. Why are they so puzzling?

13. What can you tell me to make me less scared of leaving?

14. Does it have to be a tragedy?

15. But I don’t find them awful!

16. Do I have permission to do this?

17. Are my expectations too high?

18. How can I tell them?

19. How come they seem so lovely right now?

20. Why do I feel so nostalgic?

21. Is it okay to compromise?

22. How do I find closure?

23. Are there alternatives to staying or leaving?

24. Am I making a terrible mistake?

The School of Life is a global organization helping people lead more fulfilled lives. Through our range of books, gifts and stationery we aim to prompt more thoughtful natures and help everyone to find fulfillment.

The School of Life is a resource for exploring self-knowledge, relationships, work, socializing, finding calm, and enjoying culture through content, community, and conversation. You can find us online, in stores and in welcoming spaces around the world offering classes, events, and one-to-one therapy sessions.

The School of Life is a rapidly growing global brand, with over 7 million YouTube subscribers, 389,000 Facebook followers, 174,000 Instagram followers and 166,000 Twitter followers.

The School of Life Press brings together the thinking and ideas of the School of Life creative team under the direction of series editor, Alain de Botton. Their books share a coherent, curated message that speaks with one voice: calm, reassuring, and sane.

Reviews from the hardcover edition:
"I always find a lot of value in the School of Life books; they are beautifully written, thought-provoking and insightful. This one is no different." — NetGalley review
"It is predominantly aimed at those considering whether to stay in or leave a romantic relationship, but could equally apply to any kind of relationship (friend, familial, or even a job), and also suggests ways that any of these relationships could be improved (even if one was never considering leaving)." — NetGalley review
"As a people-pleaser who has never been great at setting boundaries and who always thinks problems must be my fault, this was particularly helpful."— NetGalley review
"If you're completely satisfied with your relationships, then this can just act as a reminder to be grateful for what you have!" — NetGalley review
"Stay or Leave is a concise and highly readable book on the reasons relationships breakdown with the premise it can help someone decide whether to "stay" or "leave." — NetGalley review
"It gives an insight into both sides of the relationship and the dynamics which maybe at play." — NetGalley review
"...a wonderfully quick and thought-provoking read." — Reader review
"An excellent book to help you make decisions in your personal life … A quick read, but full of value for your mental health and love life!” — NetGalley review
"Such a wonderfully well-written and insightful book. I read it in one sitting, for such a slim volume it goes straight to the heart of the matter on several key questions about staying or leaving a relationship … Cannot recommend this enough!" — NetGalley review

The School of Life: Stay or Leave

How to remain in, or end, your relationship

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