Divorce is hard enough even in the best of circumstances. But what if your spouse is trying to turn the kids against you? What if your ex is hauling you into court over every little thing? What if you’re being falsely accused of child abuse or domestic violence? Worst of all, what if you’ve been cut off from your children entirely?
High-conflict divorce is just about the most devastating, soul-wrecking experience imaginable. The unrelenting chaos and pain can leave you exhausted and despairing. Legal fees can become a huge strain. And most importantly, there’s the impact on your children, who may be grappling with anxiety, struggling at school, acting out, or turning to substances to cope.
How can you keep it all together? In The High-Conflict Co-parenting Wellness Planner, high-conflict divorce experts Megan Hunter and Andrea LaRochelle offer hope and a wealth of advice. The healthier you are as a parent, the better you’ll be able to help your children. Week by week, the authors guide you in taking care of yourself while navigating conflict. You’ll learn practical strategies for handling the most common co-parenting scenarios. And you’ll discover new ways to manage your own anger, worry, fear, stress, and grief.
As hard as it may be to believe right now, it is possible to move beyond the conflict. You can overcome the frustration, regain your balance, and ultimately find freedom – from the overwhelming feelings, from the drama, and from your ex’s hold on your life. This book shows you how.
High Conflict Co-Parenting Survival Guide Testimonials
I’ve worked as a psychologist with high-conflict separating parents for over twenty years. Because I mainly do evaluations, by time they come to me, conflict is entrenched, and my role is to make recommendations about how parenting time should be divided. By this time, it is difficult to change the pattern of conflict that exists.
I have often wished that these parents would have had a way to understand what is happening to them, frame it in a way that is free of blame (toward themselves or their co-parent), and take bite-sized steps to heal and to step out of the patterns of conflict interfere with being the best parent possible. InHigh-Conflict Co-Parenting: The Survival Guide, Megan and Andrea do just that! Their book is accessible; it provides enough background and context to help parents make sense of their high-conflict situation without being overly academic or too psychological.
Counsellors and therapists, this book will provide a great supplement to your work, and will provide grist for your sessions when clients seem stuck. Family lawyers, you should have stack of these in your reception are, free for the taking. Megan and Andrea, thanks for an accessible resource. Your passion for helping people sidestep patterns of conflict and be the best parent possible shines through.
Jeff Chang, Ph.D., R.Psych.
Consulting psychologist and professor
A simple, direct and informative guide, that has all the ingredients to support parents to take back their personal power, to heal by acknowledging and moving hard feelings through their bodies. The book offers practical strategies to engage high conflict co-parents in effective communication which ultimately will have a positive impact on the children or divorce. A must read if you are embroiled in a challenging co-parent relationship and want your life back.
Tasha Belix, M.A., Registered Psychologist
Tasha Belix Psychology Ltd.
Clinical Director, Child & Family Therapist
I was initially leery to pick up and read yet another Survival Guide on High Conflict families – but I was most pleasantly surprised. The authors have taken a complicated area and have given back an easy-to-read and, more importantly, a practical resource for parents. Using terms like ‘flexible thinking’ and the fun ‘two-minute tango’, the book is filled with some real gems of knowledge and practical advice.
Lonny Balbi, QC
Family Law Lawyer, Mediator and Arbitrator
Balbi & Co. Legal Centre
As a lawyer who represents children when their parents are involved in a high conflict divorce, I was thrilled to read “The High Conflict Co-Parenting Survival Guide: Reclaim your life one week at a time”.
In my thirty (30) years of practice, I have not encountered such a gem of a book. It is a simple step by step – week by week guide for parents to regain and retain their own mental health no matter what the other parent may choose to do. It is well written and easy to comprehend. The underlying theme is the realization that although we cannot control how the other parent may behave, we can change our own reaction to them so that our existence can be one of peace and clarity.
I shall be recommending this Guide to all of the parents I encounter as a healthy way to interact with their respective co-parent.
Terri L. Mair
Barrister & Solicitor
Counsel for Children
This handy guide focuses on what you can do to manage your own stress and do your part in demonstrating health relationship skills with your co-parent—even with a high-conflict co-parent. Andrea’s and Megan’s weekly tips will help you stay (and regain) calm and stay on (and regain) the positive side while reasonably communicating, making decisions and resolving conflicts with other adults in your life. Just showing your child how well you are surviving this co-parenting business will put them on a good path for life. As the subtitle says, you can Reclaim Your Life One Week at a Time.
Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.
Co-Founder, High Conflict Institute
Author & Developer of New Ways for Families® Method
PRAISE FOR ANDREA LA ROCHELLE AND MEGAN HUNTER’S BOOK:
I have worked with High Conflict Personalities for more than twenty years as a Parenting Coordinator and an Arbitrator. This book offers co-parents a practical, hand-on, guide in traversing the stormy seas of a high conflict parenting situation. This book will benefit not only the parents but those of us who work with them.
Jim Pender, MSW, RSW, Ph.D., (Ed.), CHRP, ICADC
Jim Pender Counseling & Consulting
"Finally! A workbook for shifting patterns and improving lives. Most writing in this area tells you what's wrong, this one holds your hand and walks you through it."
"If you've ever wished there was someone to hold your hand through the conflict then this book is for you. It's a step-by-step guide to taking back your control."
"As a family lawyer I know separation sends clients spinning. I need my clients to stop being triggered by their ex! Finally, this is a resource that will help ground them!"
Degree: Juris Doctorate
Former Alberta Minister of Status of Women