So many couples are guilty of the same dream: we are supposed to walk into love knowing how to do it.
Creating and maintaining a great marriage, relationship, or partnership is hard work, and the truth is that nobody teaches you how to do it.
As couples therapists who are also a couple, Mark B. Borg, Jr., PhD, and Haruna Miyamoto Borg, LCSW, have managed to work out some pretty serious kinks in their marriage, and have done the same for thousands of their clients. In this groundbreaking new book, they present dozens of client anecdotes and stories of their relationship as a mixed-race couple to highlight how a simple process can address and resolve all ruptures, large or small.
Packed with interactive exercises that make real change possible, Alternatives to Divorce and Medication offers readers in any type of romantic partnership—straight, gay, nonbinary, cross-cultural, or age-disparate—a single toolbox that can bring them from rupture to repair with a new understanding of what a successful relationship should look like.
This process is introduced by the authors as the PACER model. This proven conflict-resolution method has just 5 steps: Pause, Accountability, Collaboration, Experiment, and Review. The PACER model teaches couples how to take a deeper look at what is lying underneath their issues and find a healthier outlook on the relationship.